Teenage mentality lasts from early adolescence until 22 or 23 years of age.
Most of the research shows kids are still using the same parts of their brain at 22 that they were using at 15.
If you want to better yourself, you’re going to have to start out in a junior college. I want you to think of your adult children as guests. Even if it doesn’t match up with what you had hoped for your child.
If we can’t pay for college full time, you’re going to have to work and go to school part-time.” The sooner your kid gets this reality check, the better—for you and for your kid. Many young adult children often have a false sense of entitlement.
If you’re in constant conflict with an older child over everything from curfews (should they have one or shouldn’t they?
There should be no job too menial that they can’t take it until they find something better. When would you feel you have to call the police with a guest?
What he’s really saying is: “I’m so scared about the future, I have to make up this fantasy, and then I’m gonna cling to it.” Then, if you challenge that fantasy and say, the problem. The way to keep that hostility at bay is to have clarity beforehand.
Get the expectations and the consequences down on paper—literally.
Parents feel they have to take care of their kids, whether they are 9 or 19 years old.
When they’re five, they’re climbing the monkey bars and you’re worried they’re going to break their arm.
And when things come out wrong, these kids often view themselves as victims.