I’ve known the most conservative, Bible believing, sincere, godly people get pregnant before marriage because the temptation to be physically intimate overpowered them.Knowing the “what” or the “how to” of anything can be pretty worthless without the frequent reminder of the all important WHY.Purity rings, pledges, and even dances and balls have been designed to exalt the virtue in the minds of youth. Which physical boundary is the one we should avoid?
The root of the problem is not our behavior but our heart.
If you feel like trust was broken, it’s OK to remove a privilege.
You can return the privilege when trust is restored. What your 13-year-old does today will be different from what she does when she’s 18. Sometimes trying to survive activities during the school year turns into a point of contention. Rather than fighting over schedules to exhaustion, decide what is expected before activities start.
When your daughter messes up by getting a speeding ticket, support her. Because you can comfort and guide her through her mistake. Until then, let’s challenge them to take risks, work hard and dream big.
Regardless of what they do, our sons and daughters need to know we love them — unconditionally. When we open the door to appropriate levels of freedom, we give our teens a chance to make their own decisions, and to learn from them. Knowing this limitation eliminates verbal boxing matches. And we can celebrate, knowing our boundaries and commitment played a part in their lifelong dream of independence.
In light of this paradigm shift, you don't need to worship your virginity, (although you should not trivialize it either).