You DO ALL THESE THINGS because you’re TRYING to play it smart with men.But instead of receiving connection and love, he tells you he’s “too busy,” “dealing with stuff,” and not sure he should continue seeing you because he’s “not feeling it.”Or, he doesn’t call you again, even though your first date felt magical, conversation flowed all night, and you went home glowing.Why is it that a great woman like you is still single? He strung you along for months before finally admitting he wasn’t ready to commit.You have so many things going for you, but no matter how hard you try, you can’t find the man you are meant to spend the rest of your life with. The witty, adorable guy who made you feel giddy and got your hopes up about your future?All of this pain, all of this heartbreak and disappointment and inexcusable ghosting and broken promises and confusing mixed messages…ALL OF IT can change if you are willing to embrace this one powerful truth: The problem isn’t everything he says, but disregarding his actions.Or you ignore what he says instead of taking him on his word. Ask him where the relationship is going, or if he’s even interested in marriage.He hasn’t told you directly how he feels about you or a future together, so instead of realizing he simply hasn’t pondered it, you mentally review your conversations for clues. The mistake is thinking that a man is attracted by the same things you’re attracted to about a man, namely, his intelligence, assertiveness, accomplishments.
He may not be thinking any such thing, but you wouldn’t know, because you’re afraid to ask.
You therefore interrogate men, or have your defenses up on the first date instead of relaxing and having fun.
You “spy” on him on social media or thumb through his text messages when he’s not looking.
Even though you are starting to wonder if settling is your only option now.
In short, all these bad experiences have left you with some pretty DESTRUCTIVE BELIEFS about men and dating.
Not only have I coached thousands of women to help them find love and fulfillment, but I’m a man who went on - literally - 300 dates before I met and married my wife.