"It’s natural to want to spend every second with that person, but just for yourself and self-care, you should give yourself that space."It'll help you get to know the person You may feel like seeing them all the time will help you get to know them better, but this isn't the case.
"If you want to get to know that person and understand who they are a little bit more, it's best to talk more and talk slower." You can be sure it isn't just about sex Whether you have sex with someone right away is totally up to you, and what works in your partnership may be totally different to someone else's.
Some people are quite detached and very busy with their work, so they need a partner who doesn’t want to see them too much.
Dating a person who is similar in that way helps, [because neither] want someone to be too needy, or enmeshed with them - and that works." What you should look out for, is when your entire social plans fall by the wayside so you can be with this person.
You've heard that rushing into things in the early days can fuck everything up.
"You might realise that because you were so emotionally involved and excited, you forgot about your values and what is important to you in a relationship," she says.
First of all, be clear with your partner to avoid upsetting them or making them feel you're not into it.
If that’s the case, be clear with the other person.
Say, 'Look, I’d prefer we only saw each other once a week to start with because I went through this before, and it’s not that I don’t like you I just need to go slower for myself.
"When you make your weeks 80-100 per cent that person, then you’ve got to look at what’s going on," she says.