Since it’s a public space, your date will feel safe, but more than that—you won’t be caught wanting for conversation.“You can discuss flowers, fruits, and jam preferences as you wander and shop together,” she says.“If the date is going well, I suggest buying coffee, fruit, or ice cream together and sitting someplace to eat/drink together.”You can even start planning a second date, if things are going especially well: “Suggest purchasing a few key ingredients and setting a second date where you’ll cook or prepare the purchased ingredients to enjoy together,” Rogers says.Rodgers says that much of that “first date adrenaline” (aka: those butterflies), tends to dissipate on a second date.Meeting people in-person still happens, but with far less frequency. Don’t pretend to be someone other than the marvelous person that you are. “Don't fake who you are because you can't keep up the facade forever.Instead of getting frustrated or overwhelmed, take advantage of the skills you have an be willing to learn new ones. This is a bit of a scary time in your life, and that is OK. That being said, remind yourself that you are good enough. If she doesn't like you because you are goofy, then she isn't the one. If you’ve always dated the same type of person, date someone totally different.“As you date different [people], you are learning about yourself at the same time,” says Kristie Overstreet, a clinical sexologist and psychotherapist.
When the dust settles and your life gets back to normal after divorce, you will find yourself single and, eventually, likely having thoughts about dating.
Be yourself and encourage your date to do the same.
Smiling and enjoying the moment is contagious and before you know it, you both will be at ease with the situation.
“Accept that the dating scene has changed since you were single," Overstreet explains. You’re back on the dating scene, wondering where to begin, unsure if you’re cut out for it. Believe it or not, there are a lot of women that like goofy men.”If your date isn’t into your personality, that is not your problem. If you’ve always been into serious, bookish types, try dating someone adventurous and spontaneous for a change.
"The way to meet women is different thanks to dating and hookup apps. Not every single person you date has to be your “type,” and perhaps changing it up will reveal more about your new dating preferences than you realized.
Don't get hung up on someone that isn't into you.”New experiences with new people will be a journey of self-discovery: “How will you know you don't like a certain type of person until you go on a date with them? One of the things that holds us back from putting ourselves out there is the fear of rejection.