Conversely, someone may conceal his or her past due to shame, which may create an obstacle to getting close.10. Once the relationship gets real, they’ll sabotage it. Most people reveal their emotional availability early on. Right, yet is emotionally unavailable, you’re left with nothing but pain.Pay attention to the facts, especially if there’s mutual attraction. If you overlook, deny, or rationalize to avoid short-term disappointment, you run the risk of enduring long-term misery.OK, I can go with that, but I won’t buy the story that the Universe, God, or whatever “connected” women to emotionally unavailable men that you cannot “disconnect” from.If the Universe, God, your Angels or whoever had the power to make this connection that you are powerless over, couldn’t they make these guys emotionally available while they are at it?Often these different reasons for unavailability overlap, and it’s difficult to ascertain whether the problem is chronic or will pass.
Women tell me that this “connection” is on another level, that it is not just love or attraction but something else.Emotionally unavailable men are not always easily spotted right away.When you first meet an emotionally unavailable man he may seem like someone who is ready for a serious relationship.Some people have always been unavailable due to mental illness or a troubled childhood.Others temporarily make something a higher priority than a relationship, such as a family obligation, education, project, or a health concern.
Often good at short-term intimacy, some lure with self-disclosure and vulnerability, but they prefer the chase to the catch.2. Someone who won’t be inconvenienced to modify his or her routine. Your date may hint or even admit that he or she isn’t good at relationships or doesn’t believe in or isn’t ready for marriage. Given time, they will find an excuse to end the relationship.