What is the point crafting a well-thought out message if it doesn’t get opened, or worse, seen?How to fix this: Spin it on its head and give the headline more importance.In the online world “You’re so beautiful” makes me roll my eyes and assume you type the same thing into every message box. I only respond to messages that show the person read my profile. Creepily noticing what time I’m online and asking me about it… I rarely get along with people who take themselves too seriously. I hope you never get laid again.” I resist the urge.But, it was something I found she had an emotional attachment and connection to that would be a great conversation starter. My advice: It’s not worth worrying or caring about. Never put your eggs in one basket, expecting a response from the person who seems like a perfect match for you.
From childhood, men have been brought up to be fierce competitors, to opt for the most risky jobs, to put themselves on the line, to accept rejection “like a man” and to always make the first move.
I came along, read her profile and out of everything she mentioned, I decided to pick on that and use it as “ammo”to start a conversation. Much to her surprise, it was a comment in favour of something she wrote on her profile which caught my eye—rather than putting it in the message box, I put it in the title to grab her attention, and up till this day, I have kept it.
It wasn’t the most interesting thing on her profile—that’d be quite sad. You may have similar interested, a compatible personality—you could be everything they are looking for, however even that may not be enough for some people.
During my early days into the world of online dating, I did an experiment. That’s like having a hole in your pocket which continues to leak money right to your door step.
Keeping everything else equal, I wanted to confirm whether there was a correlation with income and the number of responses I received. Just digging deep into some code, whilst watching the latest episode of ‘Suits’. You shouldn’t be surprised if an unwanted visitor knocks on your door, or commits an act of theft in the night.
Everyone jumps the gun, telling you to personalize each message you send.