In a good relationship, both people grow simultaneously. It should make you feel not starry-eyed but calm from inside.
And if you can grow from distances apart and keep the commitment and integrity alive, you can have a relationship that will truly stand the test of time. If you are not feeling this way, don’t feel an obligation to commit just because you have dated each other long enough. Would you wish to take care of parents together after marriage?
If you are a spiritual person and that is core to your existence, you won’t be able to thrive easily with someone who is agnostic, materialistic and contrarian to your values.
Integrity is doing the right thing even when no one is looking.
If your whole life revolves around your partner, there is more probability of getting disappointed when the other person misses out in giving what you want. Read this wonderful letter containing relationship advice by John Steinbeck to his son.
Are you naturally yourself with this person or do you pretend to be someone you think they want to be with?
Do you want to live abroad or in your home country? These are the questions that matter and yet most couples never discuss it until after the wedding.
Asian cultures are ultra-conservative and a western person may find many of the customs strange.