If you still feel they would be a bad match, talk to your child about that.It is important to explain to your child that you feel they are not right besides the fact that they are not Jewish.At the end of the day, for me it’s not an “interfaith relationship.” It’s just a relationship.And it’s not some wildly different experience dating someone not Jewish, because where it counts, he is: His values are made of compassion, justice, and kindness. So while the rabbinate may think our relationship is disgusting, invalid, or horrifying, I don’t care.You can also see her speaking engagements, workshops and groups for Jewish Parents around the world.
Stop and ask yourself if you would feel any different about the person your child is dating if they were Jewish.
It’s a weird metaphor, I know, but it’s a good image for how I feel sometimes.
To liberal and progressive Jewry, my relationship is still sometimes seen as “exotic,” with people making comments like, “Wow, good for you! ” Even in Reform spaces, where there are dedicated programs for interfaith couples, I’m not exempt from the cringeworthy commentary (especially from older members of the congregation). I’ve gotten to the point where they make me feel weird for a minute, but I’m able to brush it off pretty fast.
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First, my Jewish mother married a non-Jew, my father. When I speak to Jewish groups and run Jewish workshops I tip-toe around both subjects, afraid of getting challenged or seeming hypocritical, but I know that my non-Jewish father and my non-Jewish boyfriend in an odd way actually made me Jewish. If you harp on the fact that you are upset your child is dating a non-Jew you might encourage the worst possible reaction: “I’m going to date this person just because, you mom, don’t like them.” Sit them down, explain why it is important to you and then leave it. However, parents can encourage their kids to have a simple talk with their partner about what the expectation is. When I started dating my fiancé, I told him very simply that I wanted to raise my children Jewish.