When I first told two of my now not-so-close friends about our relationship, their reactions were not what I hoped for. My friends know that I am far too stubborn to be forced into anything I don’t want to do, no matter how many Krispy Kremes you bring to the table. I’ll be honest, breaking the news of the relationship to family isn’t fun.
I got a lot of ‘But Jaz, he’s a Muslim’, ‘Are you sure about this? Sadly, racism and prejudice is still very much a thing among some people, and too many are still taking warped ideas about Islam and images of a minority of Muslims doing awful things on the news, and applying them to the majority. Some people choose to later when the whole marriage thing happens, but it’s a choice) ‘Does he mind people knowing that you’re a couple? Tradition is something that most families will want to hold on to, so reluctance toward accepting something like a relationship with someone outside of their faith is definitely going to take some time.
The reason being is that the Muslim men are their fathers, brothers, husbands, and sons.
Please remember Islam is not a race or ethnicity, it's a religion.
Nope, I don’t see the logic there either, and it really is quite sad. Although it’s hard for people our age to get that once upon a time, gay, inter-race or inter-faith couples just weren’t a thing (at least publicly), and for some members of a more conventional, older generation, its still something that their getting their heads around. Especially when you’ve reached a point where you want to be involved in each other’s family lives. It’s not going to be an easy ride but if you both want to make it work, you can. Most of the drama comes from other people who just don’t get it. I don’t know, maybe they missed that PSHE lesson in yeah 4 about not judging people before you get to know them.
I’ve had things along the lines of, ‘But, like, what do you guys talk about? There will be hiccups, wobbles and minor cultural differences every now and again – that happens in every relationship.
And many do not convert but date or marry Muslim men they might meet at school, work, or other social setting.He replied that Islam is so open and tolerant that he is married to a Christian. However, the quick-minded interviewer asked him if Islam allows a Jewish man or a Christian man to marry a Muslim woman. This short article from a Muslim website, representing many others, says about religiously mixed marriages: It is not permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim man. For example, Sura says that a husband may hit his wife, but no verse in the Quran says a wife may hit her husband-as if domestic violence in any form is acceptable.It is permissible for a Muslim man to marry a Christian/Jewish woman strictly under these two conditions: She is a true Christian/Jew - not by name and/or ancestral background. Likewise you are permitted to marry chaste believing women [Muslims] or chaste women among the people who were given the Scripture [Jews and Christians] . It may be true that Muhammad at first respected Judaism and Christianity, but he turned against them later on in his life, as seen in this article and this one.Luckily, after some determined Google-ing, and calling restaurants to confirm their Halal status (definitely worth doing when in doubt), I found a lovely special occasion worthy restaurant in Covent Garden.The down side was that I’d left it quite late to book, and you had to pre-order some of the Halal steak cuts two days in advance.
By the way, there are also many non-White, such as Hispanic and African American non-Muslim women who also like, date, and/or marry Muslim men.