Arguments can be healthy for a relationship, especially when the discussion remains focused on the issue at hand and doesn’t devolve into slinging insults and pushing each other’s buttons.
But even couples who are reasonably good at resolving other types of conflict get stuck when it comes to discussing sexual problems in the relationship.
First, in North American culture, sex is viewed as an embarrassing topic of conversation, so we avoid talking about it altogether.
Or else we relieve the uneasiness by turning sexual discussions into jokes.
Before you think about his needs or what he needs to learn, where do you stand? However, my bias here is that a man who leads with talk about sex really isn’t interested in what you think.
I hear that you want to feel respected and seen as a woman. Is talking about sex off the table until the first date? I get that you want to educate him about what really interests a woman.
Past research has shown that couples avoid conflict communication, because they perceive it as threatening in three different ways: In their study, Rehman and colleagues asked people in committed relationships to imagine themselves in a conflict situation with their partner.However, too many people would rather put up with an unhappy sex life than have that dreaded conversation.Why are so many people afraid to communicate their sexual needs to their partner?That guy…one closer to your values, well, he takes his time, too. He might think you expect a shirtless pic right at the beginning!He may worry that you won’t think him confident or attractive enough.