In other words, it's not okay to fika and flirt with multiple people.
(Fika with friends is fine.) One Swede at a time, folks!
Regardless of gender, it's worth making the first move when trying to date a Swede - because they probably won't. Don't call it a date One of the most important and most confusing things about dating in Sweden is that it's not dating. You can ask out a classmate for fika, but not a date.
At this point you should know what fika is, but in this context it is an ambiguous meeting that may or may not be a date, or a non-date, or a date-pretending-not-to-be-a-date, where you will ask each other typical questions and probably end up talking about how bad the accommodation situation is in Stockholm.
* The fika situation will probably last a few weeks. (I have a friend who waited two years until her Swedish boyfriend told her “I love you”). If you cannot handle Swedes remember that this city is full of international students!
Otherwise you're cheating, even if you haven't actually said you're in a relationship.
Change starts with one small step, whether it be a large or small scale project, it all requires movement.
Dinner and movie won't come until much later - but even then, call it dinner and a movie, not 'date'. Start and end with a hug Many cultures greet with a kiss of some manner, perhaps a kiss on the cheek. Each fika 'date' and activity should start and end with a hug. Be prepared to pay Those cups of coffee and cinnamon buns sure to add up, we know. But hey, at least you only have to pay for your own! And guys, feel free to be gentlemanly and offer to pay for the girl - but if she says ' No thanks', she really means it. To Swedes there is absolutely no reason why one person should pay more than the other - so always be prepared to split the bill. It's always exclusive Okay, this may seem odd since Swedes don't really 'date', they only meet up for fika and activities.